His Calling Card - Paul Fenton-Smith
A glimpse of the emotional baggage Mr Right may be carrying
lies in his calling card. Clairvoyant Paul Fenton-Smith offers insights
into the different types of men revealed in the ancient cards of the
tarot and how to attract or avoid them.
The tarot presents four basic types of men, including their
positive traits and their shadow sides. While a potential partner may
present as a focused, generous man who is an excellent role model to
his children, his shadow may contain a greedy, self centred tyrant or
an Olympic grade sulker whose currency is petulance. Take a look below
and see if you recognise anyone you know.
Men come is all shapes and sizes, with different temperaments
and tastes. Despite the advent of the SNAG, the metrosexual and other
versions of modern man, men have basically have remained the same for
hundreds of years. When a fourteenth century set of cards clearly
describes basic types of men and is still applicable today, it’s safe to
assert that men haven’t changed that much.
The King of Wands
is sporty, passionate, enthusiastic and forthright. This is the man to
take to a match, a race, an afternoon of skydiving or a weekend away
camping and white water rafting. He thrives on a challenge, is
naturally competitive and enjoys the great outdoors.
Not blessed with tact or discretion, it’s best for his partner
to avoid asking him “Does my bum look big in this?” He’s usually
cheeky, bold and keen to do the chasing in love relationships. He
enjoys a conquest but can take longer than the other types to settle
down into a long term love relationship as he loves his freedom. ‘More
is better’ is often his attitude, whether it be driving a fast car or
guzzling a margarita.
The shadow side of the King of Wands reveals a man who is often
restless, undisciplined and impatient. He sometimes lacks self
discipline and can explode into rage when his plans are thwarted. This
is the guy who overtakes you on the inside lane because you aren’t
driving over the speed limit.
The negative King can be a magnet for fights, often lacks the
awareness to know when to stop drinking and usually spends his money
faster than he earns it. His restlessness and his lack of discipline
cause him to start his own business, but he is often bankrupt soon
afterwards. He can be a bully and difficult to negotiate with when his
temper is aroused. Avoid this man if you don’t like loud arguments,
temper tantrums or being bullied.
The King of Cups
is a soft, gentle, patient man. Although shy at first, he reveals
himself slowly to those he trusts. Artistic, naturally creative and
sensitive to the needs of others, he understands how to keep romance in
a relationship to make it work. He combines compassion with
practicality, and is suited to careers in counselling, natural
therapies, research and the arts.
He’s a man many women seek; someone who listens. He is usually
thoughtful, kind to children and animals and sentimental by nature. He
loves the ocean and more passive leisure pursuits such as reading,
snorkelling, watching films, painting, writing or playing a musical
The negative King of Cups is more commonly known as the ‘King of
Sulking.’ He can freeze you out with a look. Kevin, a negative King
of Cups refused to utter one word to his wife for four years after an
argument. They continued to live together, communicating only through
the children or a note pad on the kitchen table.
He remembers well every perceived misdeed, harbouring a grudge
long after an incident has generally been forgotten. He is attracted
to drugs or alcohol to numb his emotional pain and can retreat into
depression when creative projects fail. Often a failed artist or
musician, he is a master of passive aggressive behaviour. He’ll
accompany you to a friend’s wedding and make it known how much he
detests being there. It’s as though it is raining only at his end of
the table. He may suffer in silence but his silence echoes around the
room contributing a strained air to proceedings. Avoid this man if you
don’t like having to guess what you have said wrong, done wrong, not
said or forgotten to say. He won’t tell you, but his attitude will.
The King of Swords
is curious, talkative and intellectual in his approach. He
understands that the way to a woman’s heart is through her ear and so
he is usually keen to start a conversation. He is witty, quick to sway
an argument with fine logic and is naturally curious about people and
Preferring to keep his hands clean in his work, he favours a
career in medicine, the law, writing (non-fiction) or business
administration. This man can sell ice to Eskimos and matches in hell.
If he’s late for a date he’ll have an excellent excuse, although it may
be a compete work of fiction. Michael, a King of Swords works in the
human resources department of a large company and his job involves
reading job applications.
“I particularly like reading resumes. They offer some of the best fiction writing I’ve seen.”
An entertaining guest at a dinner party, this King can converse
on almost any subject with ease. He is adaptable, usually precise in
his work and his thinking and is adept at writing reports if his job
When negative, the King of Swords can be notoriously loose with
the facts, adapting them to suit his own needs. He’ll take a story
which was told to him and re-tell it as his own, embellishing it to
suit his audience. He can lie to you without blinking and blithely
makes promises he has no intention of keeping. He is usually
unreliable, duplicitous and adept at talking money out of your pocket
into his own.
If you catch him out on a lie, he’ll brazen it out. His chief
weapon is the carefully phrased justification. It can be a challenge to
him to convince his partner that his love affair with another woman
was merely his way to remind himself how lucky he was to with his
partner in the first place. He is often drawn to politics for the mental
challenges it presents.
Avoid this man if you like a partner to mean what he says and
say what he means. If you prefer actions to promises, this man may
The King of Pentacles
is practical, conservative, reliable and generally less adventurous
than the other types. He thrives on stable routines, resisting changes
in job or home environment because he believes ‘better the devil you
know that the one you don’t.’ He is usually hard working, patient and
traditional in his approach to life. He establishes set routines,
prefers to travel to the same place to holiday each year and is good
with animals. Trent’s routines are so well established that when he
arrives at his local restaurant on Friday evenings, the waiter knows
where to sit him and what he’ll order. “When you’ve found what you
like, why change it?” is his attitude.
This King is suited to running his own business. He detests
being told what to do. Usually disciplined with money, this is a man
who saves all he can, invests wells and plans for a financially stable
retirement. He’s often already thinking about financing his retirement
in his twenties. He enjoys nature, country life and gardening, although
his career may limit his gardening efforts until retirement.
When negative, this King desires money, often hoarding it away
in secret places in case his relationship ends. When angry with his
partner he can cut off the funds, using the threat of poverty as a
punishment. He is often work addicted, unable to relax when on holiday
and perceives material wealth as the most important measurement of
success. After an argument he’ll often go to work or retreat to his
study or shed to work off his anger.
The negative type often takes shortcuts to financial success,
investing poorly and losing everything he has in the process. He
usually reaches mid life to discover that he doesn’t like his career
but that it is financially impractical to start again. He habitually
resists change and is more relaxed at work than at home. Avoid this
man if you don’t like waiting until he’s in a good mood before asking
for enough money to buy a pair of shoes.
To sum up:
King of Wands
||Adventurous, passionate, sporty, enthusiastic, straightforward and a self starter
||Competitive, often out with the boys drinking or playing sport, impatient, hot tempered and not good at completing projects
||Running, fast cars, extreme sports, carpentry, open fires, competing with others to win
King of Cups
||Sensitive, creative, romantic, a discreet confidant, sentimental and a good listener
||Sensitive to his own needs, secretive, lives in the past, holds on to past grudges and has a tendency to sulk
||Music, creativity, spending time alone to reflect on the past, books and films
King of Swords
||Talkative, sociable, curious, open minded and mentally adaptable
||Unreliable, deceitful, argumentative, sharp tongued,
scheming, full of empty promises and rarely acts to make his plans a
||Books, ideas, puzzles, crosswords, discussions, travel to
foreign places, exploring foreign cultures, debates and social
King of Pentacles
||Stable, practical, financially disciplined, hard working and enjoys nature
||Financially unreliable, unadventurous, overindulges in sweet foods, work addicted and doesn’t like to spend money
||Business, gardening, building wealth, good food, fine wine,
real estate, work related education and country life in the later
Each type of man offers distinct qualities, and finding a
compatible partner depends on which qualities are most important to
you. If you are a book lover and a film buff then the King of Wands is
probably likely to be out playing sport while you’re sobbing to
yourself as you watch a romantic film at home. If you love action and
adventure then you might find the King of Pentacles too routine,
especially when he arranges the annual holidays by booking into the
same room in the same hotel as last year.
If love relationship partners were dance partners, you need to
find someone who prefers your type of dance. If he waltzes and you
tango you’ll tread on each others toes. If you were to group the four
types into four dances they might be as follows.
Hip hop, street dancing and Latin dancing styles such as the tango or the samba.
A slow dance in a gentle embrace to a romantic song.
Any dance where you change pace or partners regularly to maintain interest.
A waltz or a traditional structured dance where both partners have taken lessons.
© Copyright 2007 Paul Fenton-Smith